Chill? I will not be chilling at your house!

This is not your traditional grad life post, but rather just an observation that was prompted by a whats app message.

They say today we live in a hook up culture, one where 2 or three whats app conversation or a good stare up in a bar leaves you doing the walk of shame Sunday morning. Mind you, if that is your thing then that is ok, hook ups become almost everyone’s thing one point in their life.

Anyway, my rant really is about this chill culture. I am going to describe a real situation below, one that has happened personally, one that actually happened today this faithful Sunday Mawning!

So I met this guy at a Caribbean type party, he asked for my number no harm done I gave it to him. He messaged me, mostly small talk conversation and not at all often. To be honest, he became the random guy on your whats app that says hello and checks in now and again.

Anyways today he says hello, asked me what I was up to, to which I disclosed I was going to a comedy club, he asked which one and I told him. Below is the conversation after that:

Guy: Oh cool! What you doing after that, wanna come chill at mine, I live close to that comedy club.

Me: I have work in the morning. So I would have to pass on that one.

Guy: So when are we gonna chill sometime!

Me: I dno, to be fair I’m not a go to someone’s house and chill type of person. But you can meet me for coffee at an opportune time.

Guy: lol, that’s long! but okay we’ll see!

Guy: 😀

Now let’s discuss my issues with this. Even though we have had about 5 short conversations does not mean I know you well enough to come and chill in the evening time at your house. You could be a cold blood criminal for all I know. My mama never grow me to be a fool. Further more back home we were taught not to love to go to people’s yards!

Next thing now if you want to get to know me that will be done in an outside atmospere away from your personal space. Then you want to say that going to a coffee shop is too long… well in my eyes legging it to a strangers house at 9 pm at night is a bit too long for me too.

Some of these young men are lazy beyond belief. Honestly that is why a lot of these relationships are so superficial.

That is why so many people leave 2 year relationships only knowing the four walls of their man’s yard, their favourite papa johns pizza and the fact that they like watching Family Guy on a Sunday and he only knows the cavity of the young lady’s walls.

Mind you nothing is wrong with chilling, not everyday you will be in the mood or have the time to be outside the house, but I would leave that to people who know each other for a while.

What are your thoughts, am I just old fashioned?

Mx